Struggling with sexual desires is common. Don’t take it as a defect, it’s a trial for you. We cannot suppress these desires completely, neither we are allowed to follow them blindly.
Imagine fire. It can warm a home or burn it down. Sexual Desires works the same way. Allah placed this desire in humans to bond spouses, create families, and yes—even bring joy.
- He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. (Quran 30:21)
If we show patience and hold these desires for a halal spouse, it will be a win-win situation. But at the same time, If we satisfy ourselves in a haram way, we become sinful.
- Do not go near adultery. It is truly a shameful deed and an evil way. (Quran 17:32).
Most of us satisfy ourselves by watching bad videos (like porn), looking at wrong pictures, and do bad things alone (like masturbation).
It feels small at start, but becomes an addiction. And lead many people to adultery (zina).
Allah warn us to stay away from such things, because they are very shameful and harmfull.
So I am here to share a quick roadmap, that can help you to take control of this desire.
During this journey, you will be tempted back again and again. But stay strong, your role is to focus on consistent effort.
First of all, you need to make a sincere Tawbah. You have to admit the sin, feel real regret, quit the sin and ask Allah for forgiveness with Halal Alternative.
You can read my step-by-step procedure to repent.
Most Articles/Videos on the internet, show surface level actions (which work temporarily) to control these desires.
They will tell you things like deleting social media, avoiding triggers and loneliness, etc.
It may help you to for few days or a week. But after that, you will again fall back to this sin.
Do you know why? Because our inner self is the same.
Its like putting a bandage on a wound that needs stitches. It works temporarily but eventually fails.
For real change, We must incorporate Islam into Our daily routine. It starts with searching for purpose of life, Understanding our Creator, and how should we live according to Quran and Sunnah.
Because if you leave your heart empty, without Allah’s remembrance. It will fill itself with darkness.
And empty dark heart will make you weak during trials, and a strong heart will protect you during trials.
Remember, you can’t reach this level in one day. Its a complete process with struggles. You must repeat these actions to controll your sexual desires.
Surface-Level Actions (Quick Fixes):
These things can help us stay away from bad actions.
- Avoid triggers: Delete bad apps, block bad websites, and unfollow wrong accounts.
- Stay busy: Do good things like exercise, read books, or help with work to keep your mind busy.
- Set boundaries: Don’t stay alone when you feel tempted. Stay around good people.
2 – Deep-Level Actions (Lifelong Solutions):
Pray with focus – Pray with your heart, not just your body. Really talk to Allah when you pray.
Understand the Quran – Don’t just read the Quran—learn what it means. Allah’s rules protect you, not punish you.
Find your purpose – Ask yourself: “What good can I do in this world for Allah?”
Build halal habits – Fill your time with good things—like listening to Islamic stories, saying morning prayers, or helping others.
Repent daily – Always say sorry to Allah when you make mistakes. He loves forgiving you.
These acts will make you spiritually strong and provide enough energy to resist. To establish more discipline, you can fast.
Fasting teaches us self-control. When we stop ourselves from eating and drinking for Allah, we also learn to stop bad habits.
It makes our heart stronger, helps us fight bad desires, and bring us closer to Allah.
Conclusion
Sexual desires are a test from Allah to build self-control and strengthen faith. By avoiding triggers, staying productive, fasting, and anchoring your heart in Quranic teachings, you can transform struggles into spiritual growth. Embrace daily repentance, halal habits, and sincere efforts to deepen your connection to Allah.
Key: Surface actions shield your environment; deep actions nourish your soul. Prioritize both and trust Allah.
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